Thursday, October 30, 2008

Clarity of Distance

Have you ever done a number or word puzzle, working at getting the "details" in, and finding yourself stuck? Your spending a lot of time looking for the answers but you just can't seem to find them.

What happens though when you walk away from the puzzle and come back later to continue? Often times, you find the key number or word that will make the whole problem just fall into place. That's clarity of distance.

We tend to focus too much on the details of the individual problem to try to make the whole thing work. But taking a break from trying to solve a problem or issue can generate a new perspective that you didn't see before. That is the advantage of clarity of distance.

Clarity of distance is to put some distance between you and the situation/ issue so that you can have a better view of what is really going on. You know that saying that you cannot see the forest for all the trees? Same is true when trying to solve a problem.

So whenever a problem seems unsolvable, remember a time when you simply took a break, got up and did something different, created some distance between you and the problem, then came back to find that the solution was staring you in the face all this time.

Monday, October 20, 2008

The magic of perspective

I love doing teleseminars. I love it even more when it helps someone feel as if they can do something positive to make a difference in their lives. It doesn't take much to chance how your life goes. It's all a matter of perspective.

Let's say that you see yourself in a very negative way. You will walk around and attract very negative things in your life. Now what if you decided to put those negative thoughts aside and focused on what was positive. All of a sudden, you start to walk straighter, you feel more energetic, you even have a smile on your face. And to top it off, people are giving you compliments about how you look.

That is what changing your perspective can do for you. I see it especially with stepmoms. If you stop seeing yourself as someone who needs to do a job that you are not sure you want to do, because of a lot of negative connotations associated with, you will feel really down about doing that job. Stepmom roles are not often seen as positive. It is often see as being mean and to some extreme, abusive. Media does a very poor job of promoting positive images for stepfamilies.

But what if you decided to see yourself as a mentor or a bonus mom? Doesn't that change your perspective on how to deal with your stepchildren? Doesn't it inspire you to approach your stepchildren in a totally different way?

Try it and see what happens. You may just be suprise at how just changing one thing can make a world of difference. It has for one mom tonight. I am so glad for teleseminars. Good luck.

Teleseminar on "How to be a Successful Stepmother" starts soon

If you wanted to join my FREE teleseminar tonight but forgot to sign in, there is still time to do this. Just send me an email with your request and I'll send you the information. The call is packed full of great tools and motivational steps to get you started on your journey to creating a successful stepfamily.

Why not join me tonight at 9:00 pm EST and listen to what I have to say. It's free (long distance charges may apply) and requires only one hour of your time. I'd love to have you on the call.

Warmest Regards

Claudette Chenevert
Stepfamily Relationship Coach

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

How To Be a Successful Stepmom Teleseminar

Being a stepparent is a really hard job and finding tools to help you make family life better is not easy.
On October 20th at 9:00 pm EST, I am offering a FREE teleseminar on how to be a successful Stepmom. (long distance charge may apply). Here are some of the comments from the participants:
"Thanks so much for the info. I didn't realize that others felt the same way"
"Your information was right on! Helped me to appreciate what I have now"
"Excellent information. Can't wait to hear more"

As a Life Coach specializing in helping someone just like you, I give you useful suggestions and tools that you can really put into practice in your everyday life.
I've been in your shoes as a stepmom and a mom. I know just how hard it can be. Why not come and listening in on what I have to offer and find out for yourself.

To register for the call, you'll need to email me at and I will send you the details of the call.

What are you waiting for. You have nothing to lose.

Looking forward to hearing you on the call